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Abuse in adult relationships

Learn about the different forms of abuse in relationships and where to go for more information and support.

Content Warning: this article contains violence and trauma related content that may be triggering or distressing.

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Abuse is never ok

Some relationships can involve behaviour that is harmful to one or both people. Abusive relationships usually involve one partner feeling unsafe and frightened of the other partner.

  • All types of abuse are unacceptable
  • Healthy relationships involve mutual respect and equality


If you feel unsafe or in danger right now contact Police on 000

Warning signs that you could be in an abusive relationship

Here are some potential warning signs that you might be in an abusive relationship. This list doesn’t cover every possible scenario, but might give you an idea of what to look out for.

You feel worried around your partner

You feel pressured by your partner

You’re careful not to make your partner angry

Your partner controls one or more areas of your life

You partner threatens to hurt themselves if you leave them

Your partner humiliates or embarrasses you in public

You’re scared of disagreements

Your partner’s jealousy stops you from seeing friends and family

Your partner makes excuses for their abusive behaviour

Your partner intimidates you

Who can help?

It’s hard to acknowledge when somebody you love intentionally scares, controls or hurts you. But if this is happening to you, it’s important to get help.

Kids Helpline Counsellor
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Trusted friend

Talk to somebody if you feel that something isn’t right in your relationship

If you’re scared or feeling unsafe, don’t be afraid to talk about it with somebody you trust.

Kids Helpline is here to listen and support you. It’s a free call from anywhere in Australia. You can also start a WebChat or send us an email today. 

This content was last reviewed 15/02/2018

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