Living with domestic violence is not ok
Violence can happen in any family - rich or poor, rural or urban, all age groups and backgrounds.
- Domestic violence – also known as family violence – isn’t about somebody being unable to control their anger. Abusers believe they are entitled to have power and control over their partner.
- Some forms of family violence – stalking, threats, sexual and physical violence – are a crime. The behaviour of the abuser makes it very hard for the other person to leave.
Once family violence begins, it may get worse over time.
Types of violence
Here are some examples of how abusers control their partners:
Controlling their partner's finances
Isolating their partner from others
Verbal abuse and put downs
Threatening or hurting pets
Emotional abuse and humiliation
‘Gaslighting’ and manipulation
Threats and intimidation
Accusations and starting arguments
Use of weapons or objects thrown
Sexual abuse and rape
Harassment and abuse of children
Living in a climate of fear and control can cause harm
While there are many ways in which family violence impacts children, here are some key things to consider:
Babies and young kids pick up on it even if they are in another room
Children will react differently depending on age and exposure
Abuse between parents increases the risk of abuse to children
Violence at home can teach kids it’s ok to inflict pain on others
Children of abusers will NOT always become abusers as adults
Some children may have mental health issues eg. depression, anxiety
Children tend to blame themselves for their parents' problems
Some children may have behavioural problems eg. aggression
Supporting kids who experience family violence
A warm supportive relationship with a protective adult can make all the difference!
Support for families impacted by family violence
For parenting support, these services are available from anywhere in Australia:
Some services will help your family find a safe place to stay, assist you in creating a safety plan and connect you with supports in your community.
If you are looking for more digital services and resources, check out Head to Health.
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