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Self-harm is when someone causes themselves a deliberate harm or injury, often in a regular or ongoing manner. Usually, people who harm themselves are suffering a lot of emotional pain that can be hard to cope with and understand, for both the person self-harming as well as for those close to them.
Some people use self-harm as an emotional outlet, where they try to relieve, control or express pain and confusion. Self-harm is often a secret behaviour, which is performed alone. However, some young people harm themselves with others.
Being a teenager can be a confusing time and has been described as being like ‘one big roller-coaster ride’. Although there are many reasons why teenagers harm themselves, each person’s story is unique. Self-harm can be a way for a person to:
Teens who self-harm tell us that they tend to struggle with positive ways to manage their moods, feelings, and reactions to stressful events. Therefore, it is important to reach out to someone who can help explore why you are harming yourself and develop more positive ways for dealing with your experiences, relationships and emotions.
You might like to speak with:
Important: If you are facing a medical emergency from self-harm call an ambulance (000) or if you can, take the person to the emergency department of the local hospital. While most people who self-harm do not intend to kill themselves, it can sometimes have fatal results.
Getting help isn’t a ‘quick fix’ but it can help you have a healthier and happier life. Feeling guilty, ashamed, angry or ‘out of control’ can make seeking help seem scary and pointless! However, by reaching out for help, you learn new skills to manage your emotions and negative thinking. You can also build on your strengths, which you will be able to use in all areas of your life.
Seeking help can help you:
It can be a great experience to have your voice heard in a safe space. You can talk about your feelings, goals, preferences, expectations and any specific changes you want to make in your life. That’s why it is important for you to feel you can trust the person you choose to talk with.
It can be useful to talk with and seek support from your friends and family. Friends and family can be a source of added support and may help generate creative and real solutions to problems. Many young people also find it easier to talk to friends rather than parents or health professionals.
However, some people may not know what to do to help or may not understand. If you don’t get a positive response when you talk to someone close to you, try to remember that it is not because you have done something wrong. Remember as well, that while your friends and family may be able to provide support and encouragement, it is probably also best to reach out for professional help.
Talk with someone – to mum, dad, your siblings or other family members or close friends. If you need someone to talk to, you can call Kids Helpline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 1800 55 1800
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Last Reviewed January 2015