Confused
What is abuse
Abuse takes many forms and there isn’t one single way that a person is abused.
Content Warning: this article contains violence and trauma related content that may be triggering or distressing.
If you’re being hurt it’s ok to tell somebody
No matter what you might be going through, no matter how alone or worried you feel, it’s really important that you tell somebody what is happening.
Abuse is sometimes not talked about out of fear that you’ll get into trouble, that you somehow caused it to happen or that you won’t be believed
Abuse is never ok - no matter who is doing it or what they do
Abuse is never your fault - no matter where it happened or how it happened
Telling somebody is the first step. If you don’t get help at first then don’t give up - tell someone else you can trust until you get the help you need.
"Abuse is never ok. It’s really important to talk to an adult you trust and get help."
How do you know if you're being abused?
There are lots of different forms of abuse. We’ve listed the four main types of abuse here, with some examples to give you an idea of what it looks like.
Remember, these examples don’t cover everything and sadly there are too many examples to list here. If you’re unsure, please contact Kids Helpline and find out more.
Physical abuse is where somebody hurts your body; it may leave marks or bruises eg. hitting, shaking, shoving, kicking, biting or scratching
Sexual abuse is where somebody gets you involved in sexual activity eg. touching genitals or breasts, showing you pornography or watching you naked
Emotional abuse is hurting you with words or not properly caring for you emotionally eg. name calling, yelling, rejecting, ignoring, criticising or parents fighting in front of you
Neglectful abuse is when you aren’t given the things you need to feel safe and secure eg. not treating you when you’re hurt or sick, not having food to eat or a place to live, leaving you alone for long periods of time
What might you be feeling if you’re being abused?
There are lots of different emotions you could feel if you’re being abused by somebody. If you are feeling this way, call Kids Helpline for support today.
Embarrassed
Scared or worried
Guilty or ashamed
Depressed
Like hurting yourself
Lonely
Isolated from others
Who can you talk to about it?
It’s really important to find someone you trust and feel safe to talk to. If you can’t find anyone in your life who will listen, call Kids Helpline and talk to a counsellor.
Below is a list of some people you could try talking to. Remember, if at first you don’t get help, keep trying until you find somebody who will help you.
Parent
Adult relative
Adult friend
Teacher
Youth worker
Psychologist or Social Worker
School counsellor
Doctor or nurse
You are not alone – we are here to help
No matter how alone or worried you feel, Kids Helpline will always listen and support you.
This content was last reviewed 31/03/2020
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