Why does abuse happen?
You have a right to be safe. Abusive family relationships are complicated. ...
If you find yourself in a situation where leaving home or accessing supports is difficult, such as during a pandemic lockdown or a natural disaster, it's important to focus on your short-term safety by:
Minimising contact with unsafe people
Maintaining contact with safe people
Creating a sense of safety
Having a safety plan (for if conflict occurs)
“You aren’t responsible for someone else’s behaviours. The sole responsibility for violent behaviour rests on the abuser, not on the victims of abuse.” – Amanda, Kids Helpline Counsellor
Going outside or to a safe room that has more than one accessible exit
Distract the abuser or redirect their attention, e.g. “I heard a knock at the door.”
Practice a quick excuse to leave, e.g. “Hang on, I was just on the phone and haven’t hung up yet. I better go do that now.”
If you pack a safety bag, make sure it is somewhere they could never accidentally find it, e.g. at a friend's house
Have a bag packed with important documents, money, spare keys and clothing in case you need to leave quickly
Give safe people support instructions in advance and have a plan to activate this, e.g. ask a neighbour to call the police if they hear yelling, organise a code word with a friend to call for help
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