What could sexual abuse look like?
Keep in mind that if it makes you uncomfortable or scared then it’s not ok and you don’t have to go along with it no matter who is doing it. There are a range of things which can be called sexual abuse, but here are some examples so that you can know what it looks like and get help if you need to:
Talking to you about sexual topics
Showing you pornography, naked pics/videos
Getting you naked or looking at you naked
Getting you to watch other people having sex
Making you touch their body in a sexual way
Taking pics/videos of you naked or partly naked
Sending sexual comments to you online or through text
Touching you anywhere on your body that you don’t like
Being naked in front of you or showing you their genitals
Having sex or trying to have sex with you - including oral sex
Being sexually abused can be a frightening and confusing experience
Being abused can have a big impact on your wellbeing. It’s normal for your body and mind to react in certain ways when you’ve been hurt. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to feel about sexual assault. Whatever you are feeling, it’s OK. It’s common to feel:
Helpless or alone
Sad or depressed
Restless or moody
Anxious or fearful
Like harming yourself
Guilty or ashamed
Unable to talk about it
Angry or betrayed
A loss of trust in others
Shocked or physically ill
Worried about your safety
Unfocused or have flashbacks and nightmares
Confused about your body's reaction
Things that may get in the way of getting help
It’s OK to reach out and let someone know
It can be really hard to talk about but it’s important to let someone know so you can get the support you need. Here’s what you can do:
Make sure you’re safe – If you’re worried about your safety or you’re in danger call 000 and ask for the Police.
Talk to someone you trust – It could be a grandparent, teacher, a friend’s parent, counsellor, police or doctor.
Write it down – If it’s too difficult or upsetting to say out loud you could try telling someone in a letter or email.
Tell a friend – A close friend could help you figure out where to get help from and support you to tell someone.
See a doctor – It’s important to get medical care as soon as you can - especially if you’re hurt or concerned about pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections. Visit your doctor, local hospital or health centre for support.
Don’t give up – If you speak to someone who doesn’t want to help or is too shocked to help, tell another person until someone listens and offers to help you.
Call Kids Helpline – We’re here for you. We’ll listen, believe you and help you to stay safe.
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