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People with BPD find relationships and connections with family, friends, partners and other people challenging and distressing. They often have a pattern of unstable relationships and an intense fear of being abandoned. Here’s what that means:
People with BPD experience ‘all or nothing’ thoughts and feelings when in relationships. For instance, they might think a family member, friend or partner is ‘special’ and even ‘perfect’. Then something might happen and they feel betrayed or disappointed and devalue that same person (view them as being worthless). They may alternate between these opposing views regularly. Their relationships are usually very intense, but may not last long.
Fear of abandonment.
People with BPD often feel terrified of being alone or being abandoned. They might feel triggered by minor things, such as a friend not texting back. This can lead to panicked behaviours to prevent or avoid people leaving/abandoning them, e.g. begging, accusing, tracking movements, etc. Unfortunately, these behaviours can have the opposite effect and are more likely to lead to breakups and rejections, which can feed into the fear of abandonment.
BPD is very complex and there’s no single cause. Lots of factors might be involved, like genetics, environment, etc. Here are some key things that might play a role:
Attachment and trauma. In early childhood we form bonds with important people in our life. Those bonds help us figure out our sense of self and how to connect and relate to other people. If those bonds are interrupted or harmful, for instance through neglect, abuse or trauma, it can impact on your future relationships with others and how you see yourself as a teenager or adult.
Your stress response. People with BPD often experience high levels of anxiety. They might feel like they are constantly ‘on edge’, which is why they may feel very distressed or triggered by things that seem small to other people.
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