What is Gender Identity?
Gender identity means how you experience your own gender. It may seem simple, but it is a lot more complex than you might think!
What is the difference between Gender Identity and Sexual Identity?
Gender identity and sexual identity are often confused, but it’s important to understand how they are different.
Gender identity is about how we see ourselves in terms of gender. Whereas sexuality is about who we’re emotionally, physically and romantically attracted to.
Confusion about gender identity and sexuality can also make it harder for people to understand themselves. Like Trans or gender diverse people who think they must be gay, lesbian or bisexual - until better understanding their gender identity.
Confusing gender identity and sexuality can lead to people making the wrong assumptions about others, which affects how well we understand and communicate with them.
Trans and gender diverse people may at any given time change their sexuality to be affirming of their gender identity. Like a straight male who transitions to female and continues to want sexual and emotional relationships with women might redefine their sexuality as lesbian.
For example, when someone’s gender expression is different to what people expect, they are often assumed to be gay or lesbian. Like males who take Home Economics at school or females who play Rugby for sport.
I’m questioning my gender identity. Is it normal to feel…?
Understanding yourself takes time, so it’s normal for some people to feel unsure about their gender identity. But keep in mind:
- It’s not “just a phase” and you’re not “just confused”. From a young age, children generally know their gender identity and find it really hard to think of themselves in any other way.
- Even if you start feeling comfortable expressing your gender identity, people may try to fit you into boxes. But remember, gender is about much more than the gender binary.
- Gender identity isn’t set in stone. Understanding yourself takes time and it’s normal to change your mind many times about how you define and express your gender identity before things ‘feel right’ for you.
Realising that your gender identity doesn’t fit the roles, expectations and stereotypes people have of your assigned sex and gender can be confusing and upsetting. As a result, you may feel pressured or scared about expressing your gender identity.
People who feel pressured or scared to express their gender identity may choose to conceal this to feel safer. Unfortunately, this can sometimes be upsetting too. Even if you express your gender identity openly, you might face challenges like: stress about “not fitting in”, feeling invalidated when your gender doesn’t fit stereotypes or discrimination.
In both cases, when people don’t feel free to express their gender identity it can increase their gender dysphoria and increase the risk of mental and physical health problems.
On the positive side, feeling able to express your gender identity around supportive people who accept you for who you are can feel validating and freeing!
What can I DO to help me feel more comfortable expressing my gender identity?
If you want to start expressing your gender identity, but are unsure what steps you can take, here are a few ideas that may help:
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