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When parents split up

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When parents split up…

It can be scary, confusing and upsetting. It might make you feel bad or angry inside. Sometimes if parents have been fighting lots, it might even feel better.

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It’s not your fault

Parents fight or split up for many reasons. Just remember it's not your fault and you're not to blame! And it’s not up to you to fix things.

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You might have lots of questions

You might be thinking... Where will I live? Will I still see my friends? Will I have to change schools? It’s ok to have lots of questions!

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Try talking about it...

Let out your feelings. Ask questions. Try talking with a parent or older relative you trust about what’s happening. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

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Do something that makes you feel better

Sometimes feelings can be too much – try taking a break! Listen to music, play a game, kick a ball around outside, make a drawing... do something fun!

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You're not alone

Many kids have gone through what you're going through now. It may not take the hurt feelings away, but remember you're not alone!

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Our counsellors will listen

Talking about it can help! Try contacting a Kids Helpline counsellor if you need help and want to talk about anything.

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You are not alone – we’re here for you

If you can’t tell an adult in your life then tell a counsellor at Kids Helpline. We will listen and help you. Give us a call, send an email or start a WebChat.

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This content was last reviewed 06/09/2018