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How to tell if it’s bullying

Young girl makes a rude face at a young boy who is upset

When someone is mean or rude it can be upsetting

Sometimes you might have a fight with someone and they might say or do something that is mean or rude. This can be really upsetting.

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Not everything that is mean or rude is bullying

Someone can be rude or mean and it doesn't make them a bully. 

If it happens once, it's not bullying… even if it made you feel upset.

There is a big difference between being rude, mean and bullying.

Young girl being repeatedly bullied by older bigger girl.

Bullying is more than being mean or rude

Bullying is when someone plans to be mean to you and they keep doing it, over and over again. This person might be older, stronger, smarter or more popular than you. Bullying is NEVER ok.

Young person surrounded by other children being mean to them and bullying

How to tell if it’s bullying

Ask yourself: Did they plan to upset you? Does it keep happening?

Are they older, stronger, smarter or more popular than you?

If you answered yes to all these questions it could be bullying.

Boy calling Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800

If you think you're being bullied, talk to someone

If someone is being mean, rude or bullying you, you don’t have to go through this alone. We’re here to help. Give us a call, start a WebChat or send us an email today.

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This content was last reviewed 15/03/2019